For those of you that spend time inside the walls of KORU, you probably know the legend that is Robyn.
She's an amazing client, a top therapist, and one of those humans who somehow brings both wisdom and absolute chaos in the best possible way. She brings the laughs. Great stories. She's sharp.
And one morning, as she walked out of class, she casually dropped this gem:
"I can always fuck a stranger, but I can never fuck someone I don't like."
Absolute stitches.
But if you think about it, even as guys, it's true. And it sparked a really good conversation around the little things we do or don't do in our relationships, such as:
- The unsaid thing or frustration that never gets said.
- The repeated "I'm fine" when you're clearly not.
- The lack of repair.
- The lack of appreciation.
- The compliments, or lack of them, and whether we're giving them to get something in return.
- The feeling of being roommates instead of teammates.
Do the people closest to us feel seen? Heard? Understood?
Do they feel chosen?
Or are we just crossing paths between work, school drop-offs, dinner, emails, sport practice, laundry and collapsing on the couch pretending we'll "connect this weekend."
Relationships need attention, they need honesty, they need humor. They also need hard conversations.
And they need moments where we stop and actually ask: "How are we... really?"
Attraction for sure builds chemistry. Attraction also requires trust. Respect. Safety. Feeling like you actually like each other. Feeling known. Feeling connected.
Also, if you can laugh together after a great conversation in a gym at 7am, that probably helps too.